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Family history. A novel idea.

The Thought That Counts


Screen Shot 2020-02-14 at 11.07.49 AMappreciate having a computer. Without it I never would have written my first novel. And e-gadgets bring distant family members close when we share photos, Skype and text.

Electronic communication does not need envelopes, stamps or mail boxes. E-mails, e-cards, and texts are easy to store, easy to trash, easy to read, quick to type, quick to send and receive, easy to correct or change, and inexpensive. There are choices of fonts, emotions and colors. The minute a person comes to mind, I can pop a letter to her and with one click she receives it thousands of miles away. I love that I can stay close to family and friends around the world. Quick is good.

Does it matter that every e-mail looks much the same– stark and impersonal? Isn’t it the thought that counts?

Do we relinquish something precious by our use of e-communication, even with all its advantages? Do we forgo “that special touch?”

Keeping in touch” means “maintaining communication with someone.” That definition seems more impersonal than the idiom implies. Have letters become merely functional– to be read and disposed of rather than treasured?

Letter writing used to require paper and pen or pencil. The writer needed to choose the most appropriate paper, perhaps one with letterhea, or bordered with flowers, a vellum, fragranced sheet, or note card—or decorated with something to add “a special touch.”

The writer attended to her best handwriting.

The writer gave thought to the right words without the aid of spell or grammar check.

Finally, the writer addressed and licked the envelope (or sealed it with wax) and affixed a stamp. She sent the missive by messenger or mail service, then waited and waited for a reply.

Imagine how a young woman might have felt when she was handed a letter and her eyes fell upon the familiar handwriting of the one she loved. Personal notes and letters used to be cherished, to be read and re-read, stained with tears. Or blood. Or coffee. Bundles of yellowed love letters found in old trunks still spark our imagination and evoke emotion.IMG_2945_resized

I have a collection of cards sent to my parents celebrating my birth because my mother pasted them in a scrapbook. Why did she do that? And why do I keep them?

There is something special about touching a letter that has been written by a loved one or someone from the distant past. There is something special about what thoughts the note expresses.

What does “keeping in touch” mean to you?

I will continue to use a computer and welcome e-cards and letters, but I will cherish the handwritten notes and remember when it was more than the thought that mattered.


3 thoughts on “The Thought That Counts

  1. I learned to do cursive writing using a straight pen which I dipped in ink. I don’t long for those days. The ink splattered, I had to use a blotter and sometimes my ink bottle fell on the floor. These are nostalgic thoughts but I am so thankful for the computer!

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  2. The younger generation is definitely missing both the intimacy and emotion of old fashioned letter writing. Saving old letters, whether from friends or relatives, lets us remember those vintage, wordy snapshots in our lives. My mother wrote the best letters – loving, detailed, colorful – and her handwriting was a beautiful script that I’ve never seen equaled – truly artistic. Those days seem to be forever lost – replaced by an impersonal computer generated font and keyboard. We should petition for a real, pen-in-hand, paper-on-desk “Letter Writing Day” to keep the old tradition alive. Now, let me find my local Congressman online so I can shoot him an email . . .

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